Showing posts with label respect. Show all posts
Showing posts with label respect. Show all posts

Monday, October 1, 2012

"Have a New Husband by Friday"

I decided to take Abbie to the bookstore a little over a week ago, on Friday September 21st. I was in hope of finding some book series that I could get her to read that would spark a love of reading. I naturally do not have a love for reading but rather lothe it.  When I was growing up I had several issues with reading and never truly felt sucked into a book like I would hear other describe. The star wars book were a huge solution to my parents struggle to get my oldest brother to read. He founds something he connected with and had a passion for. I want that for Abbie. We picked her up a book about a mermaid. We have yet to start it due to the chapter books she has to read for school. I am hoping to get back into the rhythm of things at home. I also decided that it is important for her to see me reading more, if I want her to read. I love reading the Bible and get so much from it but if faking a passion for reading would help her it is worth it. It might also teach me more discipline. So I decided that I want to read one book a week. I know that this will be a struggle. I felt defeat as soon as I had said it out loud. I then realized that even if I don't make it through one book a week I still would have read more than if I didn't try at all. 

I wanted to do some good, appropriate, and constructive books. I decided I would review the book after I finished and tell you all how it went. like I had assumed I took me a little longer to finish the first book. It took me nine days.. but guess what? I finished it and I learned a lot. 

Pages: 212
First Impressions:When I first saw this book I have to admit it caught my eye. My marriage is in good condition and we have been building a healthier relationship, so I have no reason to buy this book. Then I saw the clearance sticker. Clearances always deserve a second look. As I flipped through the pages to skim the content, one of the chapter titles grabbed my attention. "Thing about What You Want to Say, Then Divide It by Ten." .... Wow.. hmm... so simple, yet is makes so much sense. I decided that this would be my first book. I had no misconceptions about this being a book that will change him, but would actually change me and my understanding of him.   I told my mom about the book and the author and she said that she used Dr. Leman's, "Making Your Children Mind Without Losing Yours", when she was raising me. She had gotten some great tips and advice that helped her understand me.Set Up:The book is set up into five days with multiple sections under each day. He puts little tips in the margins. There are sections with Q & A between some of his readers and himself. He has some letters from readers who show how things have changed for them. There is a quiz before hand and one after. He also has a to do list for each day. He uses a lot of person stories about his relationship between himself and his lovely wife. Review: I loved this book. Although it took me longer to read it than most, it was an easier read than most books are. He is very respectful to women through out the entire book, while he is honest about some of the negative affect that feminism has had. I completely agree with him on this stance. I find that while the feminist movement has helped women in the work force it has also been taken to a point where men are now being emasculated and disrespected. Men are given the impression that they are not needed anymore. He tells you the three things a man really wants from their wives. He explains the differences between men and women, from a mans view. I found his honestly about what a man thinks and feels as refreshingly honest and very different from what I had thought. Dr. Leman discusses what influences a man's mother had as a child and continues to have. He explains how to communicate, but more importantly, how not to communicate. Dr. Leman explains the importance of sex to a man compared to women. I would strongly recommend this book, not only to women who's marriage is struggling, but also to the woman who wants to be a better wife and understand her husband more. Outcome:I have seen a lot of change in my relationship. We started out with a good relationship and will finish with a great relationship. I have been respecting my mans masculinity much more. I have been practicing communicating with him better. My husband has been listening to me much more and has also been talking a lot more. He been showing a lot more love and appreciation for me. Today alone he walked into the living room after dinner and complimented me and my food. He has helped out with things around the home such as installing coat hanger and the baby gates. He has also been much more affectionate with me, giving me hugs and kisses. He even gave me a foot rub after I trying one of the tips in the book. All this change was because I am showing him the respect he deserves. I am showing him how needed he is in my life. Also, because he is fulfilled. What's next? The book I will be reviewing next is "Captivating" by John & Stasi Eldredge.

Thursday, May 31, 2012

30 Day Blog Challenge: Day 3

Describe your relationship with your parents:

Oh how the tides have changed. When I was a little girl I had a bizarre relationship with my parents. I saw my dad as my prince charming and my mom was the evil witch that was trying to steal him from me. 

Every week my daddy would take me on a date, the majority of times it was to see Beauty and the Beast. He would teach me how to be a princess and what to expect of my future prince. We were in a Daddy-and-Me club called Indian Princesses. When my dad started working more hours, we didn't have much time to go on our little dates. I thought it was a plot from my mom to keep me from spending time with him. When they would go on a date I would get angry. My mom once asked me how she looked and I told her that she needed to cover up. At one point I even told her, "If daddy met me first he would have married me." I had so much anger and jealousy towards her. Looking back it seems so strange and I completely see her side. 

My anger and jealousy turned into hate. In second grade I hated her so much that I used to wish harm on her. My dad was not helpful in the situation. My mom would punish me and he would let me off of the punishments. 

My mom is such an amazing mother. I have no idea how I would have handled a daughter who was spoiled, bratty, and full of hate towards me; but she always treated me with unconditional love. She told me that she didn't raise me, God did. Since they were at a loss of how to raise kids, they went to God in everything. What an awesome example of a godly woman. 

I am still a daddy's girl but now I am much closer to my mom then to my dad. Things are completely different from when I was growing up. It wasn't until I had a child of my own, that my mom became one of my best friends. I have so much respect for her. I now am able to look back and see what I have put her through. I am always amazed at how she handles herself in tough situations. She is so understanding and loving. She knows exactly what to say and when to say it. She does this trick, where when I am sad, all she has to do is ask how I am and I burst into tears. I can hide my feelings from almost anyone but her. She has taught me how to show godly love when someone hurts me. She has taught me to turn to God in all things. 

If my daughters think of me admiration as I do with her, I would know that I have done a great job. 

Proverbs 22:6 "Start children off on the way they should go, 
    and even when they are old they will not turn from it."

Proverbs 31:26-31 
"She speaks with wisdom,
    and faithful instruction is on her tongue. 
27 She watches over the affairs of her household
    and does not eat the bread of idleness.
28 Her children arise and call her blessed;
    her husband also, and he praises her:
29 “Many women do noble things,
    but you surpass them all.”
30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
    but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
31 Honor her for all that her hands have done,
    and let her works bring her praise at the city gate."

How is your relationship with your parent(s)? 
Has your relationship changed with time?