Showing posts with label child. Show all posts
Showing posts with label child. Show all posts

Wednesday, September 10, 2014

Stuck - Poem for my oldest daughter

I wrote this poem based on what my daughter was experiencing being a biracial child in Ferguson, MO. She feels stuck. We are trying to form open communication to help her with her feelings. All of this is written off of what she has told me when we were talking, so while the format is mine the feelings are all hers. 


All I see is black and white, literally and figuratively,
And I forget to see all those in between.
What does that make me?
I see blacks angry at the whites for mistreatment,
And whites unable to understand the pain.
What does that make me?
I have been exposed to so much hate,
And have to pretend to be brave for my sisters.
What does that make me?
I was only a little girl with big dreams,
Now I don’t know who I am supposed to be.
What does that make me?
I feel like a black girl in a white community,
And like a white girl in a black community.
What does that make me?
Ferguson is the city I love,
and a place that I fear.
What does that make me?

Sunday, June 10, 2012

Scared to let go

I was just at a dear friends house for BBQ. I noticed that my friend was trying to let Eb walk on her own but was scared that she might fall. Just a week ago I was feeling that way. I loved this picture. Even though it is so simple, it says so so much. You can see the anxiousness in my friend hands trying to safe guard Eb. You can also see how oblivious Eb is to my friend. 

I think one of the toughest things a parent does it finding the balance protecting their child and enabling their child to be independent.

I don't think this can be learned once. I notice that I face this particular struggle often. It begins as they are infants. You want to let them walk on their own, but you don't want them to fall. I remember following Abbie around and holding her up as she walked. When a friend told me that it is not only ok to let Abbie fall, but it is actually beneficial. She needed to learn how to take a tumble and how to hold her balance.

As they grow they learn new skills and demand more independence. It can be tricky deciding how much freedom to give them. I believe, no matter how much freedom you do decide to give your child, you need to be there for them if they fall. Children will always get boo boos, they will be physical, emotional, social, or spiritual. 

It is so encouraging to know that God, our Father, does the same thing for us. Although He gives us direction, He has given us free will. He allows us to be independent. When we end up falling, He is always there to pick us up. 

Romans 8:14 " For those who are led by the Spirit of God are the children of God."

James 4:10 "Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will lift you up."

Romans 8:38-39 " For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord."

Tuesday, June 5, 2012

Hands on Day: Having fun with kid friendly experiments and food.

Milk and Soap Experiment:
What you need: Bowls, Milk, Cotton Swabs, Liquid Dish Detergent, and Food Dye.

What you do: Put a little milk in each bowl.

Help the children put about six drops of food coloring in their bowl of milk. (You can mix colors for fun conversation.)

Have them dip the end  of the cotton swab in liquid dish detergent. (Wipe off excess)
Place the end in the milk bowl. (The colors do this strange design, they can pick pu the end and place back in different parts of the bowl.)

This was a fun project to try. By having multiple cotton swabs available they can keep trying it. I would suggest this for 7 yrs plus.  One of the children was younger and wasn't able to listen to directions.

Baking Soda & Vinegar:
What you will need: Baking Soda, Vinegar, Food Coloring, and Bowls. 
 What you do: Put 1/4 cup of baking soda in the bowl. (Have them shake the bowl slightly to make the bottom evenly coated.)
 Put a lot of food coloring into the baking soda. (Mixing colors is good.)
 Pour vinegar into the bowl and watch it bubble up and change the colors. 

We were able to discuss acids and bases. We also discussed mixing colors to create new colors. 

Quick Personal Pizza's:
What you need: English Muffins, Pizza Sauce, Cheese, Preferred Toppings, and a Baking Sheet. 
What to do: Splint English Muffins in half and lay out on the baking sheet. 

Pour a little sauce on the English muffin and have child evenly distribute using a spoon. 

Have the child place a handful of cheese on top. 
Let the child choose and place on his or her toppings. 
Broil them in the oven.
Take out when cheese is bubbly. (When using raw meat make sure it is cooked all the way through.)
 Enjoy :) 
 This is a healthier alternative to regular pizza. You can make even better by using whole grain english muffins, you can use a low fat cheese, and you can use veggies on top. 

We broiled them but you could probably bake or use a toaster oven. Baking it would probably give it a harder crust. 

They ate all of them. I am definitely doing this again.