Showing posts with label Flylady. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Flylady. Show all posts

Thursday, August 16, 2012

Changes in life

╰☆╮First let me apologize in advance... I have recently found some new emoticons that I can use on here to add a little umph to my posts. Since this is the first time finding them I might over use them a bit... I guess this is an apology and a warning. They are really cute.

╰☆╮For those who know me, I have always struggled with organizing and cleaning. When I am faced with a mess I just stand staring at it feeling overwhelmed. I have a hard time doing anything because I can't figure out where to start. When I was a child I would be sent to my room to clean and several hours later I would get in trouble for having not finished anything. The other problem I have is focus. I can get really easily distracted sometimes. As I clean I end up looking at ever paper and getting sucked into a entirely different train of thought. I feel like the dogs on the movie "UP" who get side tracked every time they see a squirrel. 

Recently, I began reading and doing the whole Flylady thing. It has made a huge difference. Not only was I able to take baby steps to having a clean and organized home, now I am actually becoming an organized person. When things are out of place, I feel the need to straighten up real quickly. My husband, who is not good at the verbal encouragement, has been telling me how much he appreciates all of my efforts at home. He has even been bragging on me to others. I am so proud of my home and what it has become. One of the best helps has been a group of mommies on The entire group is a Flybabies group. We encourage each other and we post daily our cleaning plans. I have found that by posting my to do list on Facebook, I have been better at accomplishing what I set out to do. Another great help has been praying before I start to clean. I pray that God will help me with my attitude and that I will have a heart to serve my family, not an attitude of being a martyr. Then I turn on my worship music and I accomplish what I set out to do.  

╰☆╮Homeschooling has been going amazing. We have gotten so much done and are having a great time. I am in no way knocking public or private school, but I know that for Abbie she is learning so much more each day that she would at her old school. She really thrives off of the one on one attention. It has also helped with her jealousy towards her sister. I love that I am able to teach Abbie about God. One of her World history books teaches her about different countries and areas and at the end of the section it tells us some great ways to pray for them. I will be writing about it more in my blog on it.

╰☆╮Now that I have gotten control of my home I need to get back on the wagon when it comes to my body. I am cooking much more at home and have been drinking the breakfast shakes. I want to go back to the gym on a regular basis. I went last night and I need to go more often. I have not gained any weight and have actually lost a pound while being off the wagon, but I need to refocus. Maybe I will take the girls for a walk to the park tomorrow. 

╰☆╮Speaking of getting back on the wagon, I have decided to get back on the wagon with cutting coupons and planning a menu. I wanted to get together with a group of ladies and go coupon diving at the local recycle bins. One great site for finding deals and coupons would have to be It is a site that lists the best deals including all the coupons one needs to save the most money.  

Friday, August 3, 2012

Friday Letters- Baby Girl's Special Birthday Edition

Dear Friday, 
  I am so glad you are here again. When I see you, I feel like I have seen an old friend. I can let my hair down and relax. I can breath again and just enjoy the day. At the same time I realize our time together will not last forever. I have missed you. Sadly next time we see each other will be the end of summer. Today is a big day for us. 

Dear Elizabeth,
  Happy Birthday baby girl. I love you so much. One year ago today we got to meet you face to face. I am so proud of how much you are learning and how obedient you are becoming. Your personality is shining through. You are loving and yet so independent. I know that you think that you are five years old just because you have an amazing seven year old sister. I hope we can have a great day today. I love you so so much. 

Dear Abbie, 
  I love you. I am so proud of what a wonderful big sister you are and have become. You are the best helper in the entire world. You help me with so much around the house. You are so great at protecting your baby sister. You are doing a great job at teaching her to love and care for others. I love you.
Dear Hubby, 
  Wow, how fast did that year go? So much has changed in the last year. You have grown so much as a father. I can see so many changes from the way you are now with 
the girls, compared to when Abbie was this age. I am so thankful that you are actively involved. I know that you are a manly man, but I love the gushy loving man you become when sitting with your girls and watching a girly tv show. They know you love them and they are so lucky. Thank you. I love you.

Dear  Biological Clock,
  Must you tick so loudly? I have two beautiful girls and yet I can hear your alarm going off, trying to tell me it is time for the next one. We can take the hint. So now that the youngest is already a year old we think it is time to start trying for that third... but please be nice and give us a boy. Third times a charm, right?

Dear Chocolate Chip Cookies,
  Thank you for not calling my name too loudly. You are so delicious and perfect. Two cookies in two days is doing pretty well.

Dear Flylady and group,
  Thank you so much for all of your advice and support. The house is slowly becoming the organized, clean, peaceful home of my dreams. I love the decorations that have  held the space of the old clutter. I have been tackling one room at a time and am keeping up on the others throughout the day. I feel like I have accomplished so much more.

Dear God, 
  Thank you so much for all the blessings. Thank you for holding me together over the last year. Thank you for protecting my family. I am so excited to see what you will do in the next year. Please help me to grow closer to you and to become the woman you want me to be.


Wednesday, August 1, 2012

Where to start.... FlyLady day 2

I don't think I have ever had writers block. I can usually come up with some sort of topic or idea to go off of. In marriage counseling one of our pastors gave us a writing exercise. When I heard his words I was immediately filled with joy. "Write a letter to God about your spouse. Your spouse will not read it. I will be the one reading both. Pour out your heart to God about the other person. God already knows all you are thinking and feeling so be honest." This sounded like a great exercise until he said, " I expect your letter to be more than ten pages." At that moment you could hear a pin drop, or more accurately both of our chins. Honestly, I don't think I have ten pages of stuff to write. Of course, I can rehash the past and things that have happened but even that wouldn't be honest, since I have already forgiven him for those things. When speaking to my hubby, we both freely admitted that ten pages seemed like a little much. I thought that even two pages seemed like a lot since he isn't the same man as before. I feel like I am relearning him. This is all due by Monday and it has me a little overwhelmed. I have no idea to where to start. 

On a totally different note, I have found a way to start when it comes to housework... 

One of my Flylady groups, makes lists of all of our to-do's for the day and goes through and checks them off as we go. We update and encourage each other. It has been helping out so much. My kitchen, living room, and bathroom have been staying clean and I have even begun to start major projects and teach the children their lessons. I feel so accomplished and making/having a list to go through has made a huge difference. I feel like I have accomplished so much more. I posted the last three days so you all could see how I write them out. Anything that doesn't get finished just moves to the next day. I don't beat myself up about it. I try to pick one big thing a day to work on during nap time, sadly today nap time was cut short in order to pick up the hubby.

  • Wake up
  • Wait for other kids to be dropped off.
  • Put load of diapers in washing machine
  • Make breakfast
  • Get kids up and ready
  • Straighten kitchen back up
  • Move stuff from washer to dryer/ Put new load in
  • Turn on Dance game for children/ or Tae Bow dvd
  • Straighten Bathroom under sink
  • Do lesson with kids. (Science, Math, Reading and Journal)
  • Strighten up Living room
  • Switch over load and put in new one.
  • Go to counseling appointment with hubby
  • Make lunch/ straighten up dishes from lunch as I go
  • Put kids down for nap
  • Fold clothes in Toyroom 
  • Work on bedroom
  • Make snack and wake up kids to eat
  • Clean up after snack
  • Fix daughters door
  • Write blog post/ possibly vlog post
  • Get dinner ready
  • Straighten up kitchen after dinner mess
  • Eat as family
  • Watch a show together. 
  • Go to bed early. 
  • Wake up 
  • Help Eb brush her teeth
  • Give girls a bath
  • Comb and style Abbie's hair
  • Wait for kids to arrive
  • Throw dinner in crockpot
  • Make breakfast and clean up kitchen
  • Put load in the wash
  • Put together all diapers and put in dresser
  • Play outside with kids.
  • Morning devotion
  • Switch over loads and thow in another load of clothes
  • Start lessons Math, reading, and Switch over load and put in new one.
  • Make lunch/ straighten up dishes from lunch as I go
  • Put kids down for nap
  • Fold clothes in Toyroom , Put clothes away. 
  • Work on bedroom
  • Make snack and wake up kids to eat
  • Clean up after snack
  • Fix daughters door
  • Write blog post/ possibly blog post
  • Wake up
  • Wait for kid to arrive
  • Switch over loads of laundry/ put in new load/ fold right away
  • Morning Devotion
  • Take dishes out of dishwasher and put away/ reload
  • Make breakfast/ take care of dishes after
  • Clean off Kitchen counters
  • Clean out fridge
  • Sweep/ Mop Kitchen floors
  • Clean up toy room/ vacuum floor
  • Switch over loads of laundry/ put in new load/ fold right away
  • Work on lessons- math, writing, reading, and science (planets)
  • Organize and prepare Abbie's homeschool stuff. 
  • Put kids down for nap
  • Clean bedroom- organize, put away clothes, take dirty clothes down stairs, and Vacuum floor.
  • Prepare a snack/ wake kids up
  • Clean up after snack
  • Make dinner-  Chicken wings, Green Beans, and Noodles
  • Check bills/ budget
  • Clean up kitchen after dinner 
  • Get girls ready for bed
  • Go to bed early
I also began to make a menu at the beginning of the week. It helps so that I don't wonder what to make for dinner and spend hours fighting with myself over what sounds good and if I have all the ingredients. 

While the house is not perfect, I would not be embarrassed if a friend or family member stopped by. This will also make Saturday cleaning go so much easier. 

Night all... 

Wednesday, July 11, 2012

I Have Been Betrayed

On Mama Kat's Writer's Workshop, there are many writing prompts that are listed each day. One that really spoke to me was as follows: Write a poem that about a time you felt betrayed.

Mama’s Losin’ It

Merriam Webster Dictionary defines "betray" as 
to lead astray; especially : seduce
 to deliver to an enemy by treachery
 to fail or desert especially in time of need

Although it may sound a little crazy I feel that I have betrayed myself for several years, through my lack of action towards improving my health and taking control of my weight issue. I lead myself astray by ignoring the issue and by providing junk food. I delivered myself into the devils arms through believing and repeating his lies and by giving into temptations. I also deserted the younger version of myself, when I began to use food as a way to comfort myself. There were plenty of times that I could have taken the time and effort to discover what part of me was hurting and calling out for help through the use of food. I am hoping and praying that I can turn this around. I want to claim the victory God has for me. Not necessarily the victory of weight loss but in improving my self-control and by making healthy decisions for my family and myself. 

How could witness my imprisonment? 
I have been a prisoner of your choices for years. 
How could you sit and believe the lies?
The lies that are written inside of the mirrors. 

I called out, called out to be saved.
But instead you choose the foods you craved.

I was hurting and you would only ignore. 
How did you not see the pain I tried to hide?
The pain I bandaged with food and junk.
And now here I am, imprisoned deep inside. 

There I screamed, my voice upraised,
But you just choose your lazy ways. 

Today I checked out a book, from the library, called "Body Clutter: Love your body, love yourself." It is written by the FlyLady. She has some great questions listed for the missions. 

First days questions:
Look back for your first memory of comfort food. Is it a certain food or any food?

Popcorn and Ice-cream were my go to foods. I would sit in front of the television and eat them. 

What is your favorite food when you need comforting?

Popcorn and sometimes Ice-cream. 

Now, can you look back in your past to figure out why you love it so much? 

When I was stressed or bored it was a quick fix. I felt like I could find what I needed at the bottom of the container and I would search and search. 

Write down your first memory of using food to comfort yourself and what was happening to you and how you felt at the time. 

I don't remember my first memory of using those foods but I do remember feeling lonely. These were the times my depression first began to flair up. I felt fat, even though at the time I was not at all overweight. I gained almost a hundred pounds in one year. I felt this pulling or this drive to eat. 

I think I still need to dig deeper and see why that sadness was there. I am excited to see what will come of this new kick. I fear that it won't last but I need to give myself a break. I can't set myself up for defeat before it is necessary. Even if I don't end up sticking to it.. eating better for a day or two is better than not at all. Recently, I began WW and exercising more more than ever before. 

Do you feel like you have betrayed yourself in any area? What is your comfort food? 

Saturday, June 16, 2012

FlyLady...............Day 1

When I walk into a room that is cluttered and messy, I feel defeated and overwhelmed. My head spins and I don't even know where to start. I have always been this way. When I was a child my parents would send me into my room to clean, I would stand there for hours and not get anything done. To me, cleaning is an endless cycle. By the time I do clothes, clean the kitchen, and start on another room; I have to start all over again. I never have time to just de-clutter things. 

I recently realized that Abbie does the same thing. I get so frustrated at her when she doesn't keep anything organized, she takes forever to clean, and she gets distracted. How can I yell at her for begin like me? I decided to try this new way of organizing and cleaning. Today I got an audio book by a lady called "Sink Reflections" from the website of FlyLady. (Check out her site by clicking on the name.) It seemed like she was talking about me and my life. My embarrassment and anxiety about having company, especially the In-laws. She breaks things down so easily, even though all the steps don't make sense at first. So here I go... I figure it won't hurt anything. I adjusted my steps to make it work for Abbie, also. 

All the steps are free on the website and they give you suggestions, support, ect. You are supposed to add one step a day. I did a couple in the first day. 

Step 1: A Shiny Sink
I love this!!! She wants you to feel proud of something and to feel like you accomplished something so she has you clean your kitchen sink. Note, I didn't say do the dishes... She even says put the dishes on the floor, the table, the counters, anywhere but in the sink. Then, you follow her instructions to get a shiny sink. It takes a little elbow grease but it works. You only have to hard core clean it once. Everyday you start with this step for upkeep. 
My Shiny Sink
Abbie helping me to straighten the sink. 

Step 2: Dress to the Shoes
I hate this!!! She wants you to get fully dressed. As if you are leaving for work. Rinse your face, fix your hair, and put on your sneakers. 

I understand the reason for this, but I hate shoes. The idea is if you were going to work you put on shoes and get ready. There is something about being prepared that makes you feel like you need to get more done. You are less likely to just sit around if you have sneakers on. It helps physically, also. I did notice that it was easier when I had them on. I did a lot more and had more energy. She asks that you just try it for two weeks. I will see. I had to dig these shoes out. I guess they will be my cleaning shoes. 

Dressed to the Shoes
Step 3: Set out Clothes For Tomorrow

Instead of wasting time and looking for clothes each morning she suggests setting them out. That way it takes less time, there is less stress, and then you have time for step 1 and 2. 

Clothes set out.
Well, that is all for today. I will post more after I try the next steps. 

I want to be more organized because God tells us to be self-controlled. I would have more time with my kids, friends, and Titus Two girls. I would be less anxious and stressed. I am not supposed to cling onto material things. Only God should have control in my life, not a pile of old junk. I want to be a good example for my girls. 

Are you a naturally organized person? What in things in your life (spiritual, emotional, or physical) need to be de-cluttered? 

Again please check out the site... it is a little overwhelming but look at the links that are just about getting started