Saturday, June 30, 2012

Political Correctness

Oh how often I find myself in conversation with my daughter and she tries to soften the blow by lying. I am not sure if she is trying to deceive me or trying to deceive herself. The way she does this is not by completely disregarding the claims made against her. No, she instead will change her wording to make it sound less terrible. 

I have so many examples but a few are as follows.

  1. Stating she "borrowed" something, instead of stole it. 
  2. Stating that she was "joking" about something, instead of lying about it. 
  3. Stating that she didn't push the person "too hard" or claim things as accidents.
Why does she do this? 

I think there are two main reason that she does this. Firstly, she does it because she is afraid of the reaction and the punishment she will receive. Secondly, I think she does it because of her pride. She doesn't want to classify herself with her friends negative actions. 

What do I do in response?

I state things as they are. If she says she borrowed something, I point out the fact that she didn't have permission. Then I make her call it what it is. I ask her, "What do you call it, when someone takes something that doesn't belong to them without permission?" She tells me that it is called stealing. We proceed from there to discuss or discipline her for her actions. 

You may be asking yourself, "What's the point?" Well my friends, I have found that so often the things I struggle with are very similar to my daughter. 

In our society today, we try way to hard to be politically correct instead of God correct. Part of being politically correct is the way we change our wording to make things sound less terrible. I think that this is a tool that Satan uses to pour lies and make things seem more acceptable. 

What I am about to say is not to offend anyone. I do not believe that it is my job to judge you or others. I do not bash or hate anyone for what choice they have or choose to make. I also will not act like I think that the choices are not sins and are not wrong in God's sight. I can not expect non-believers to follow, listen to, or do what I say. To assist in what I am going to say I am going to place no opinion or personal experience. I am just going to state what the Bible says and the verses, you can take as you wish from it. 

These are words that our society changes to make seem less harsh. 

Affair:Adultery... Lust is adultery. Matthew 5:28 "But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart."

Fetus:Baby... I know that the scientific term is Fetus but that does not mean it is not a baby. 
An abortion is murder- Jeremiah 1:5 “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you,
    before you were born I set you apart; 
    I appointed you as a prophet to the nations. 

Hating a person is equal to murder. 1 John 3:15 "Anyone who hates a brother or sister is a murderer, and you know that no murderer has eternal life residing in him."

Little White Lie: Lie... A lie is a lie. If a person is a Christ one and to be like Christ they need to be truthful. John 14:6 Jesus answered, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me." Exodus 20:16 "You shall not give false testimony against your neighbor."

There are so so many more examples of this. We choose certain words to not only hide from punishment but also to compare ourselves to others. Though it may seem difficult and scary, the best way to take the control away from the devil and from the sinful nature of our flesh, would be to be honest and call things as they are. I noticed that it does make a difference at the same time it can be very convicting. James 2:10 states, "For whoever keeps the whole law and yet stumbles at just one point is guilty of breaking all of it." Therefore, I was an adulterer, a murderer, a  liar, a rebellious child, a thief, I have made idols. Who am I to judge another? Romans 3:23 " for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God." I know that I deserve death, but thankfully I have been given eternal grace through Jesus Christ. I am a new creation. 

How different would our society be if we stated things as they actually were?

Friday, June 29, 2012

Friday Letters


Dear VBS, I have enjoyed spending the week with you. I love all the kids I had a chance to teach and loved the cool crafts I had a chance to create. I am also so glad that you are finished. I am exhausted and need another 51 weeks off until I see you again. 

Dear Daughters, Mommy loves you so so much. I really need you both to sleep in tomorrow morning. I would prefer that you all sleep in till noon but I will accept ten or eleven in the morning. I am so lucky to have you girls. 

Dear Hubby, Please don't wake me when you come home. You will be the most awesome hubby in the world if you would sleep on the couch and take care of the baby in the morning. 

Dear Homeschooling project, I will read over your curriculum more tomorrow. I also plan to clean out a room in the basement and set up the classroom. 

Dear Money, You aren't very nice to me. You aren't there when I need or want you and you are always burning holes in my pockets. 

Dear Heat, I hate you. It is supposed to be called "Global Warming," not "Global Hot as Hell." Please fix this. 

Dear Friends, I love you. You all have blessed my life so much. From those of you who have comforted me in my hardest times, those who support and encourage me, to those who take the time to read my blog. 

Dear Y&R (Young and Restless), Thank you so much for actually finishing a story line. Today I found so much closure. It was a great episode and I am glad that two characters I hate are gone. 

Dear A/C Unit, They are planning on coming over next week to take you away and replace you. Thank you so much for this last spirt of coolness in this heat. I know that you want to die and turn off but thank you for staying with us for  just a little longer. 

Dear Hubby, Thank you for not complaining too much about me trying to freeze you. I know you like heat but just a little longer. 

Why God, Why?

So many people ask, "If prayer is supposed to be so good then why are there people who have been raped, why are there kids who have been molested, why do people die, why does "God" allow children to get terminally ill and die, etc? " 

I remember wondering the same thing many years ago. It is a very tough thing to watch a child in pain from an illness or from another persons actions. 

I wanted to respond from my personal beliefs as a Christian. I am not expecting anyone else to agree with what I say but I am just giving my stand point and my beliefs. 

To the first part of the question, the part about rape and molestation, God gives us free will. The same free will that allows one person to choose whether or not to even believe in God is the same free will that allows a person to choose whether or not to sin. We can't expect God to give free will for things we want and not for others. There are still laws in place to correct things and God will lash out His wrath on those who did terrible thing, who seemed to get away with no concequences.

To the second part of the question, the part about death and illness. I believe that since the "fall of man", for nonbelievers this is when Adam and Eve first sinned and were seperated from God, our bodies and spirits are dying from the first breath we take.. sadly sometimes even before. This was a recourse for an action to choose to sin. Jesus came to the earth to bring eternal life. Our bodies will still continue to die until His return but our spirits will not continue to be seperated from God. The Bible refers this to the decaying.

Romans 6:23 "For the wages of sin is death, but the free gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord. 

2 Corinthians 4:16 "Therefore we do not lose heart, but though our outer man is decaying, yet our inner man is being renewed day by day."

Romans 8:20-27 "For the creation was subjected to frustration, not by its own choice, but by the will of the one who subjected it, in hope  that the creation itself will be liberated from its bondage to decay and brought into the freedom and glory of the children of God.
We know that the whole creation has been groaning as in the pains of childbirth right up to the present time. Not only so, but we ourselves, who have the firstfruits of the Spirit, groan inwardly as we wait eagerly for our adoption to sonship, the redemption of our bodies. For in this hope we were saved. But hope that is seen is no hope at all. Who hopes for what they already have? But if we hope for what we do not yet have, we wait for it patiently.
In the same way, the Spirit helps us in our weakness. We do not know what we ought to pray for, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us through wordless groans.  And he who searches our hearts knows the mind of the Spirit, because the Spirit intercedes for God’s people in accordance with the will of God."

Thursday, June 28, 2012

What Is Behind The Curtain?

Recently, I have been a little put off and bothered by Christians that put on a huge facade and are really just weak hypocritical  people that are hiding behind a curtain. 

Often we don't see how real and true people are until they are faced with a situation that they would have to react to. It is in their reaction that we find the true state of their heart. Jesus encountered this and had an amazing love and grace for them. I just want to shake them and shout, "what's wrong with you." 

I so hope that I am never seen as one of these kind of women. I mess up and I try to be honest about it. Those times when I do act hypocritical, please confront me. 

I know that those people need to be shown God's love and grace just as much as everyone else, but have so much overwhelming frustration and confusion by them. This week I saw many women as they truly are. Women that I had assumed were godly women just by their involvement in church and based on what they personify,  but lacked love, understanding, patience, joy, unity, maturity, and acceptance. I felt duped.

Now I  think it is time for me to stop this blog post.  Most of the time it helps me to calm down, but I am beginning to feel a little more riled up. 

Before I close this post I want to show how amazing Jesus was. He dealt with the pharisees, who approached Him with judgement and tried to trap and trick Him with their words. Jesus was still able to show them grace and love. He saw them as they were. Honestly, I have a tough time showing hypocrites any grace or forgiveness. Maybe that  is why God is exposing me to more difficult situations. Maybe it is an area that I just need to turn over to Him. 

Truths: Jesus prayed for others. Jesus saw them as people who haven't seen God's amazing grace. Jesus would correct their thinking in a loving way. 

Lord, please help me to show love and grace for those who I get along with, as well as those who frustrate me. Help me focus more on changing my own heart than on changing the heart of others. Please help those people you and your love. Bring things to light in your timing. Amen

Matthew 23:26 " Blind Pharisee! First clean the inside of the cup and dish, and then the outside also will be clean."

Matthew 7:3-5 " Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye."

Wednesday, June 27, 2012

The 6 best things about being an adult

Mama’s Losin’ It
Since I was up anyway, I decided to write a prompt from Mama Kat's writer's workshop..

The 6 best things about being an adult...

1. Not having to wait and eat all my dinner before eating my dessert. I once sat with my daughter at the table for dinner and I began to eat my dessert. She told me that I was supposed to wait until after I finished all my food. I said, "No dear, You have to eat dinner first. I did my time." She continued to tell me how unfair life was so I told her, "It ends up fair in the end. When you are grown up and a mommy you can eat dessert while your kids eat their dinners." She was pleased with my explanation. 

I had told a friend of mine and she thought it was unfair of me to do this... I had to remind her of all the times the kids eat the lollipops, ice-cream, and other treats while we are left watching them. 

2. Messy room... While I try to keep the living room straightened, I say try because it seems to be impossible at times, I don't have to keep my room clean. I know my hubby would appreciate it so I am going to work on it, but my mommy and daddy are not going to come over and look at my room. If I have the rest of the house looking decent they don't even know the jungle that is my room. I have stacks of papers and "stuff" on the dressers that are like trees, I have a river of clothes stretching from one door to the next, and I have hills of crumpled blankets and sheets on the bed. Occasionally, I have two little monkeys swinging from my husband to me as we lay like rocks refusing to believe that it is 9am on a Saturday. 

3. Ok, so we are all adults on here... well at least I am. Thus the choice of this blog post. One thing I think it best about being an adult is sex. There I said it.... I am married and God created it to be something awesome between a husband and wife. I do find it funny that it is faux paux for  a wife and a mother to talk about sex publicly, while at the same time it is all over tv, magazines, and other sources of media. I just know that someone might become angry or think this is inappropriate but I think it so extremely appropriate. In a marriage sex is fun, relaxing, and builds intamacy... well at least for me it is. 

Lol... anyone remember this? 

4. Choices... As an adult I can make choices that I couldn't as a child. I can say no to an adult. I can decide to not play with someone who is mean or doesn't share. I can choose what to study, if I want to study. I can also choose to spend my money on toys instead of saving. Some choices might be better for me than others but I am the one making them. 

5. As an adult our bodies are still changing. We begin to get aches and pains from what seem like random things. We also get hormone rushes... but I am so so thankful that the hormonal changes and rushes of the teens is over. At least now I am able to recognize them as what they are. I don't know who had the bright idea to shove all the hormonal children together in classrooms, that is just a recipe for disaster. I know some very brave men and women who would not want to be anywhere near a  junior high or high school. Those were some of the most confusing and frustrating times of my life... there was way too much drama and I wasn't confident enough in myself to just ignore or stop talking to people. It don't want it to sound like I didn't like anyone and didn't have fun but at that time I had the emotions of a child, the hormones of a teen, and the body of an adult. Puberty sucks. Too bad it wasn't like in HSM... breaking out in song and dance would have at least been more entertaining. 

6. Having children. When I had my older daughter I was not an adult. According to the law I was but in maturity I was nowhere close. I was truly blessed that God helped me through and helped me to mature and become the woman I am today. I enjoy being a mother so much more now, as an adult, then I did then. I don't have as much anxiety about "screwing her up" as I did then. I am so blessed by my two beautiful daughters.

What are your favorite things about being an adult? 

Daily Blog Challenge: Day 24

Describe your family dynamic of your childhood vs. your family dynamic now.

When i was a child my whole family dynamic was so different from now. I was extremely close to my dad. I hated my mom. I followed my brothers around and wanted to hang out with their friends. 

Now, my mom is one of my best friends. My dad and I are close but we are in that phase where he is going from just my dad to being more of a friend. I also barely see or speak to my brothers even though we all live within twenty minutes of each other. 

If speaking about my husband we are very much our roles as we were in childhood. He was the oldest son and I was the baby girl. Sometimes he will act like the older brother by not letting me play the video game and trying to do it for me. Then I will fall into my little sister personality and get mad. I will get very competative and when all else fails I will threaten to tell one of the moms. It happens so fast and so naturally that when we realize that we are acting that way it is almost funny. 

Monday, June 25, 2012

Daily Blog Challenge: Day 23

List your top 3 hobbies and why you love them.

Writing blogs... I find that it is a great way for me to process situations and it challenges me to find God in all situations. I seek His word and I end up transforming as the words flow onto the screen. I have alway loved to write, but I stopped years ago when I could not handle the pain that came from physically writing. 

Watching Children... I don't know if many would considering babysitting a hobby... but when I look at the facts it is something I love to do and often don't get paid for. I have been blessed in being able to generate a small amount of income but even if I weren't able to I would still do it. 

I like creating things... I don't like using a method or a structured process. I just kind of like making things up and seeing what comes of it. I have made cloth diapers, duct tape purses and wallets, and other random things. I find it relaxing.