Oh how the tides have changed. When I was a little girl I had a bizarre relationship with my parents. I saw my dad as my prince charming and my mom was the evil witch that was trying to steal him from me.
Every week my daddy would take me on a date, the majority of times it was to see Beauty and the Beast. He would teach me how to be a princess and what to expect of my future prince. We were in a Daddy-and-Me club called Indian Princesses. When my dad started working more hours, we didn't have much time to go on our little dates. I thought it was a plot from my mom to keep me from spending time with him. When they would go on a date I would get angry. My mom once asked me how she looked and I told her that she needed to cover up. At one point I even told her, "If daddy met me first he would have married me." I had so much anger and jealousy towards her. Looking back it seems so strange and I completely see her side.
My anger and jealousy turned into hate. In second grade I hated her so much that I used to wish harm on her. My dad was not helpful in the situation. My mom would punish me and he would let me off of the punishments.
My mom is such an amazing mother. I have no idea how I would have handled a daughter who was spoiled, bratty, and full of hate towards me; but she always treated me with unconditional love. She told me that she didn't raise me, God did. Since they were at a loss of how to raise kids, they went to God in everything. What an awesome example of a godly woman.
I am still a daddy's girl but now I am much closer to my mom then to my dad. Things are completely different from when I was growing up. It wasn't until I had a child of my own, that my mom became one of my best friends. I have so much respect for her. I now am able to look back and see what I have put her through. I am always amazed at how she handles herself in tough situations. She is so understanding and loving. She knows exactly what to say and when to say it. She does this trick, where when I am sad, all she has to do is ask how I am and I burst into tears. I can hide my feelings from almost anyone but her. She has taught me how to show godly love when someone hurts me. She has taught me to turn to God in all things.
If my daughters think of me admiration as I do with her, I would know that I have done a great job.
Proverbs 22:6 "Start children off on the way they should go,
and even when they are old they will not turn from it."
27 She watches over the affairs of her household
and does not eat the bread of idleness.
28 Her children arise and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her:
29 “Many women do noble things,
but you surpass them all.”
30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
31 Honor her for all that her hands have done,
and let her works bring her praise at the city gate."
How is your relationship with your parent(s)?
Has your relationship changed with time?